So, you’re filled with zeal and excitement. Everybody wants you to pray for them since your slate has only been wiped clean. This is your rebirth, your brand new beginning. It isn’t simply a new chapter, but a new book, and actually a brand new series. Now the community has a vested interest in your success. You’ve just crossed a bridge to discover that you’re not just in a new land, but a new world and possibly an alternative world. This religion has so many layers and oceans so deep that you feel you can implode from all of the pressure. You will find the prayers, the principles, the regulations, the language, the culture, the areas to master, the 1400 decades of scholarship to study. Everybody is telling you this or that and you are trying to figure out it. You really feel as if you’re in a vacuum. It’s all mind-blowing.
My advice would be to take your time, because you have a long road ahead. I have seen some converts filled with anxiety because of all of the things they had to learn. You will cross some bridges once you get to them. And a few of us were once filled with zeal, so super excited to discover this convention, and so eager to emphasise we think. However, the verse quoted above is to point out that like the Bedouin, we should rather take that growing religion is a tricky journey. Instead, we should say that we submit to God’s will. By obeying God and the advice given to His Messenger (s.a.w.), religion can enter our hearts. In certain ways, this is bringing us back to certain humility about our relationship with our Lord. In this phase of newness and zeal, we could be easily misled into a destructive things. Bear in mind, lots of people are misguided and will capitalize on your naiveté in their own misadventures.
So here is 6 tips for new reverts:
1. KEEP YOUR NAME.
Your parents have known you for almost two decades or more by one title. Don’t force them to call you by your new ‘Muslim’ name, particularly one they can’t pronounce. It will weird them out.
2. IF YOU ARE IN COLLEGE, STAY IN COLLEGE.
Don’t drop out of school, travel into a dusty village to learn the fundamentals of your faith. You can learn plenty of things by reputable online courses and associations or by attending a course at the local Muslim community centre. Complete school. Don’t listen to somebody who’s slanging oils on the street corner or a privileged kid who has had his faculty bankrolled by wealthy parents let you drop out due to student loans. Those very same people will not have the ability to support you when you’re unemployed.
3. IF YOU HAVE A JOB, DO NOT QUIT.
Unless you’re a stripper or bartender, but even then, you probably ought to create a slow transition into halal gains. But if you work in corporate America, don’t allow some zealot make you feel guilty because you work for others.
4. DON’T TAKE IT ALL ON.
Pace your learning so that your practice matches your knowledge. This isn’t a race. Do not understand or feel like you must memorize the Quran and become a muhaddith tomorrow. Start looking for creative ways to contribute to a community that does not overburden you, but gives you a feeling of place.
5. AVOID RUSHING INTO MARITAL DECISIONS.
Nothing will freak out your parents over a stranger marriage (www.happymuslimfamily.org/marriage). But most importantly, it can be quite damaging to you as a new Muslim. Some of us will rush to wed a new shahadah as you don’t understand anything. Take your time to develop yourself both as a Muslim and as a human being.
You should be ready to take on all of the spiritual and real world responsibilities of becoming a Muslim spouse. Additionally, you should make certain that your prospective partner knows his/her responsibilities and is ready to be a supportive spouse. You need this decision to be among the best decisions you will ever make and it will determine the course and direction that your Islam will require. Even when you became Muslim throughout the practice of marriage, you want to take possession of your religion and your spiritual improvement.
6. REFRAIN FROM RELIGION WARS.
Do not start debating your Family and chastising them about their “mushrik,” “kafir” faith. It’s better to live by example and should they have questions answer them to the best of your ability. But maintain respect for your family ties.